Mantra #4: Appreciate your experiences.
I’ll be the first one to say life is not easy nor is it fair. Nonetheless, there is an opportunity to learn, grow and appreciate each and every interaction you encounter on a daily basis whether it be business or personal. Assess every good, bad, and ugly happening in life from this point of view. For example, if you didn’t have to deal with traffic on your way to work, appreciate that you’ve been able to enjoy your drive into work without traffic. On the flip side, if there is tons of traffic on your way to work, take the additional time to plan your day, think about that important meeting, or listen to your favorite songs on the radio – appreciate the additional time you have. If you really put your mind to it, everything that happens in your life can be used to your advantage. All it takes to do so is the right mindset and attitude!
One tactical way of building that mindset is to view everything you deal with (the good, the bad, and the ugly), is to use what I call the Situation Review (borrowed from what the military calls the After Action Review). In this framework, every incident is treated as neutral (neither positive nor negative) and reviewed (in a calm state) for the following things: How does/did the event impact me? If it didn’t impact me, move on. If it did impact me, how did I gain/lose from what happened? Are there any best practices/lessons learned from what happened? How can I repeat/avoid from this happening again? Give this a shot, more than just once, and let me know how it worked or did not work for you!